Different Person, Same Response = The Reason Your Single

I was talking to a good friend of mine by the name of Val earlier this week and he mentioned something to me that sparked an interest. Through text messaging, we were having a conversation about how women respond the same way to different type of men. Here is the exact text: “Why is it that some females react the same way to a man saying "Ayo ma" or "What's good b***h. Let me holla." as they would if a man said "How are you doing sweetheart. Can I talk to you"? This is a very valid question. I see this happen every day.

Women are approached constantly by various men. With various men comes diversity in approach. If a man is being polite, your response should be as well. Just because you are not interested does not give you the right to have a nasty attitude about it. Women complain that chivalry is extinct and it's hard to find a good man, but have these same women take time out to think what about their actions make them so unapproachable? I think not! The same man that asked you,"Hey sweetheart. Can I talk to you for a minute" could be a man who is trustworthy, hard working, gentle, kind, and any other requirement on your list of "The Perfect Man". If you’re walking around with an attitude all the time that is exactly what you are going to get. Your attitude may be looked at as rough and in need of a rough man to tame that beat of an attitude you have. Every move you make is being analyzed by those who wish to associate with you.

I’m guilty of either ignoring an individual or just being plain rude. Since I have heard stories of women being killed because of these actions I wave more, smile more, and walk away with ease. This one time (at band camp lol don’t you love American Pie? haha) I had a man approach me after a party and I simply said "Hi. I'm sorry. I'm in a relationship and I wish to stay that way but thank you for the compliment." He politely said he understood my stance and respected the face that I didn't add an attitude to my honesty. He told me to have a nice night and we went out separate ways.

Another way to think about it is this: it takes courage to walk up to someone and ask them anything. Don't crush someone’s spirit and mess it up for the rest of us. Now Miranda can't date Johnny because his insecurities have corrupted his ability to love because the girl in the supermarket said to him "You’re nothing. What makes you think someone like me would even think about being with someone like you." -_- Cut your crap ladies. Gosh! (Lol)