A reader by the name of Ashley posted the following question: "OK so I have a topic suggestion...Why is it ok for a man to make the decisions when to enter an exclusive relationship. Just because you’re seeing someone and he calls you his girlfriend that’s what you become, but if your female your looked at as clingy are crazy if you say yeh your my man now. Why do we have to get his ok but he doesn’t necessarily need hers? Is this even fair? "
To answer your question Ashley, no, it is not fair. Relationships consist of the approval of both parties. You can't be in a relationship with someone if they don't agree to it. Everyone says something to get a positive response from whomever they are involved with. It can be a comment that implies the future holds a deeper relationship or a hug that's a little tighter than normal. Because you are a woman it is least expected for you to say something without an emotional meaning. Sometimes people talk just to talk. That shouldn’t be allowed just for men. If you can say yes to being in a relationship with someone you can also say no. I don't know who died and told men they were God but it needs to stop. You're not going to tell me I’m your girl and I just accept it. If I can't joke with you without you blowing it out of proportion, I don't want to be your girl anyway. =p
Am I the only Venus that feels this way? Does Mars object?
wellll..ladies ..we all know why it works the way it does. Not because males Run the world and do what we want but its actually in best interest of he female when the status of the relationship is proclaimed by the man...because who really "NEEDS/wants" that step in the relationship ??? Publicized not the man..! b/c 4 most guys(RNS), and or girls..when they feel a certain way towards a partner nothing really needs to be Established(said out loud)..digg
ReplyDeleteNyasia here.In response to KngBob, I would like to say you're correct but to an extent. I completely get where you’re coming from. If we both have a mutual understanding whether it has been said out loud or not (actions speaks louder than words) then that conversation is irrelevant. However, some people want that validation. If you really care about a person you wouldn't mind giving in. Certain conversations avoid complications and misunderstandings to the nature of the relationship. It can also be used against you. For example if your "shorty" went on a date with another man you can be mad but she can also say "Well, we aren't officially in a relationship. Until then, I can do as I please."
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