So my roommate told me a relationship isn't valid if it isn't posted on facebook -_-. REALLY? I didn't know a social network defined a relationship. Go figure. I've witnessed relationships turn for the worst because the girl wanted to be all over her boyfriend’s page. His defense was “my page says in a relationship. What more do you want? I agree with him.
Before you gang up on me, hear me out. A relationship should be defined by those who are actually in the relationship. Social networks are used to socialize, end of story. Yes it is a good feeling to know your significant other is going out of their way to let your relationship status be known but if he/she doesn’t then well, he/she doesn't. People become suspicious saying "Why are they hiding me? What kind of attention is he/she trying to obtain?" BLAH BLAH BLAH.
If you want to cause havoc because facebook doesn't know that we are more than friends then maybe we shouldn't have taken that leap. Get your behind back in the friend zone. Insecurities ruin relationships. Are you only worth a "in a relationship" status? Becoming more than friends is hard enough already. Don't make the little things get in the way of something good.
How do you feel about this Venus? How about you, Mars?
(Just in case you forgot, Venus means Women and Mars means Men)
How do you feel about this Venus? How about you, Mars?
(Just in case you forgot, Venus means Women and Mars means Men)
I agree 100 percent. relationships are hard to maintain and when you allow the little things to get into the way of something that is special. Though being insecure is almost a problem in any relationship so it is easy to understand where these people are coming from, but if you think it is something good, just realize it and don't let the little things get into the way.
ReplyDeleteIts not official till its on facebook, is obviously incorrect, you don't have to say who you are in a relationship with but if you arent single...whats the trouble with saying you are in a relationship I mean seriously you write bout what you do during the day whats the trouble with just saying you are in a relationship. Facebook is to keep your friends updated with your life, and if ur in a relationship why not tell your friends...if you want to write bout other stuff not about your life... get a blog - Crissy <3
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ReplyDeleteI am the original speaker to this post. I just want to clarify my perspective. I am not saying it is OKAY for an individual to not want nor give in to the their boyfriend/girlfriend's request in making the world (facebook) know that they are together. If your spouse refuses, questions should be ask as to why they are scared to do so. My point in this post is very basic. Your relationship should not revolve around your social sites. If your boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't want to put a giant picture of you on their page saying "Hey Facebook. This is my girl/guy" think of the possibility of them not wanting their relationship with you to define them. Maybe they want to remain an individual. If my boyfriend was to say no to such a request, there will be some questions that better have good answers. (Wait. Was that a contradicting thought?) This topic isn't as easy as I thought when I fist started typing. Lol
Who cares? why let a social network determine if 2 souls connect? If thats the case, I should find anybody on FB and be in a relationship, ONLY bc FB confirms it to be official. . I find that to be stupid, of course the questions will come if denied to make a relationship official on FACEBOOK ! However, it do bring problems, seeing that Facebook is the root of all evil. . I say that if you and your significant other know what's real, its not needed to let the World know. . Ex, I'm about to hit a Month on Friday (Directed @ Nyasia). . but I'm positive you didn't know that right? ♥ you ! (From your Fatty !)
ReplyDeleteI absolutely agree that a social network should not determine a person's status. I mean, my son, 14, had to "confirm" that I was his mother first, then is married to a bunch of chicks from school, has close to ten siblings whose name I have never heard of, and on top of all that, he has 2 kids which makes me a grandma already! And I'm totally not ready for all this!!:)
ReplyDeleteLOL @Sandy
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