This topic is on going. It's a conversation I always see myself having amongst friends. Men who have multiple sex partners are praised and admired. He's viewed as a player; a man of great stature. On the other hand, a woman who has multiple sex partners is considered soiled, tainted, and disgusting. She is labeled as a hoe, slut, or a smut. Every negative label you can think of comes to mind when a women with more than a certain amount of sex partners is thought of. Some may even take it as far as to say she doesn't have any respect for herself.
No matter how you try to justify the terms used, there all wrong. If a guy is a player for having sex with the whole world then so is the woman and if the woman is considered a smut for whatever sexual encounter she is labeled a smut for, then so is the man. I personally don't have a definition for a hoe (smut). I only use the term out of anger but that's besides the point.
Never in my life have I ever been drawn to the man who prides himself on being a player. In my eyes men who perceive themselves that way or die to live that lifestyle is pathetic. Now before you screw up your face and exit out of this post read my explanation. Men who pride themselves on multiple sex partners or encounters for social gratification are men who are highly insecure. They have nothing to offer besides an erection. They use that erection to somehow over power the many flaws that they have. Women do the same thing too, but instead of an erection it would be an opening ready for whoever is willing to enter and blah blah blah. (I'm trying to keep it as clean as possible guys. My teacher reads this. hahahaha)
I'm getting upset just typing this so let me just end by saying the following points:
- If you are going to label a man a player than be sure to notice the playettes (women)
- Just because she/he has a lot of sex doesn't make them promiscuous. Maybe they have a higher sex drive then you do.
- Having sex for social gratification isn't okay. You should never have sex with someone in hopes that they will love you. That's not love. It's infatuation.
Agree or Disagree Venus and Mars? Or are we going to agree, to disagree?
OK so I have a topic suggestion...Why is it ok for a man to make the decisions when to enter an exclusive relationship. Just because your seeing someone and he calls you his girlfriend thats what you become, but if your female your looked at as clingy are crazy if you say yeh your my man now. Why do we have to get his ok but he doesnt neccessarily need hers? Is this even fair?
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