Non-Commited Committed Relationships

"I don't do girlfriends but I'm only going to be talking to you and your'e only going to be talking to me."

"It is what it is. We don't have to put a label on it. (but I'm single)"

"He's not my man. (giggles) We just talk."

"I'm not looking for something serious feel me? I just wanna have fun."

 

Ever heard of an open relationship or a friend with benefits? If so, you should know exactly what a non-commited committed relationship is. Just to clarify, a non-commited committed relationship is a relationship where two people agree to be monogamous without stating that the two are in fact in a(n) [exclusive] relationship. Behind closed doors, you guys are the happiest couple and in public your'e just friends. Your not allowed to have these intimate moments with no one else but you guy's aren't boyfriend and girlfriend or girlfriend and girlfriend etc. etc.

In the beginning this may seem like the best of both worlds because your'e never lonely but your'e not tied down. However, conflict arises as many times as you smile. So much can be lost and won during these times. It cause a feeling of never being lonely yet a sence of confusion, security behind doors that build insecurities down the line. I'm not bashing the whole non-commited committed relationship thing but how many of us can really handle it? I was told women can't handle it worth crap but some men can't either. No matter what the case is, there comes a time where all the male ego disappears, all the tough shell begins to soften, and real emotions surface.

Some people don't even know there in these relationships and some are in them for the rest of their lives. Do real relationships even exist anymore? Has marriage become a myth? Is it wrong to want a husband and not a baby daddy or a best friend who is your lover instead of a certified booty-call? Is it wrong to want to be loved outside and inside or am I reading too deep into this? (It is 5am and im just typing cause im too lazy to put my laptop back where it belongs. Ugh!)

I understand you have needs. I understand you don't want a relationship but be careful what you wish for.  Don't lead people on, that's just WACK. If your'e swag was up there you can be real and still get where and with who you want. I would give you a guideline on how to have a successful non-committed committed relationship but i think "Oh My, It's BootyCall Time" is suffice for now. 

Like I said it's 5am people so bare with me. What's your take on the subject?