She Wants Baby, He Doesn't. Should He Pay?

My Mother: "Should a man have to pay child support if he tells the woman to have an abortion and she refuses?"

Me:" Sigh. I'm going to post this on my blog Ma. When you read it, you'll get your answer. Smh"

Silly me has a Facebook to which my mother has access to. Like every other week, I promoted this very blog; asking my readers for suggestions for their suggestions matter. My mother was the first to respond -_-. Granted I was skeptical about the topic but once I savored the question I realized it is valid. Yes, he made his bed so he should lie in it (devil's advocate says...) BUT should a man be forced to pay child support to a women who was very much informed the child was not wanted. I am all for taking responsibility for you actions but if the female in the situations solution to said "problem" is to keep and his is to abort, should their lives take the road of their after-math decision? 

The child did not lay in that bed nor did he/she have unprotected sex and whisper in your ear when the results came back; "keep me".

There are some dead beat dads in the world who refuse to take care of their children.  How can one define what that is? Some can say a man that doesn't provide or nurture for their children or a combination of both. Other's define it as simple as a boy refusing to become a man. I define it through both terms because it takes more then money to raise a child.TAKE NOTES. My mother brought to my attention that some men, perhaps aren't dead beats at all. They made their choice. They spoke on how they felt on the matter yet the mother proceeded to have the unwanted child. If a man tells you he doesn't want to have a child and that he is not ready for fatherhood, there is no lines in between that says maybe in nine months, I will feel differently. If a man tells you he does NOT want anything to do with you or that baby, who are you to force him? This is (kind of) all your fault. You knew that you cannot raise the child on your own yet nine months later you give birth to a hungry, cold and homeless child. 

Mother's and father's are not born. You cannot pick up "Parenting For Dummies" and think your problems are solved. You cannot wait till the baby is here to get your life together nor can you force anyone to be your knight and shinning armor. You cannont force anyone to be a parent. Once again the question stills tands: Should a man have to pay child support if he tells the woman to have an abortion and she refuses? Well in today's news, a man went to jail charged with murderer in the second degree for forcing his woman to do so.

I have no answer. Do you?